The Fourth Step to Forever: The ProposalNov 25, 2016
One of the most memorable events of your life, a marriage proposal is beautiful, special, intimate, and absolutely unforgettable. Because a marriage proposal is typically personalized to you and your partner, there are not many ways in which we can tell you how to propose. However, we have a few suggestions on making it perfect. […]
One of the most memorable events of your life, a marriage proposal is beautiful, special, intimate, and absolutely unforgettable. Because a marriage proposal is typically personalized to you and your partner, there are not many ways in which we can tell you how to propose. However, we have a few suggestions on making it perfect.
Know your partner
Whether you have been together for years and years, or are in a whirlwind romantic love story à la Romeo and Juliet (hopefully with less tragedy), knowing your partner’s style, interests, and general level of comfort is a really good idea before you pop the question. Some people would love a public marriage proposal; some might prefer a one-on-one in the privacy of her own home. If you know your partner, and we are sure you do, you are already equipped to make the right decision on how to ask one of the most significant questions of your life.
Though you may feel silly practicing a speech asking the love of your life to marry you, it is a really good idea. The old saying is still true: practice really does make perfect.
If you feel strange asking your own reflection to marry you, grab your best friend (or hers!) or a family member to help you run through your lines. Though you will most likely not stick to a script when you finally sit down to ask your partner to marry you, it helps to have spoken the words aloud a few times.
Maintain the secret
Speaking of friends and family, a big part of your proposal’s success is in your ability to keep it a secret – for the most part. We are all excited when a big life event is upon us so of course you are going to want to tell a person or five, but depending on what kind of proposal you are planning, telling fewer people will ensure that it remains a secret for your partner.
More and more often, we hear of beautifully orchestrated marriage proposals that include friends and family in some form–via Skype, in person, sometimes while singing and dancing to a choreographed number. If your proposal will involve multiple people, just be sure to swear everyone to secrecy first. A dance sequence is always more fun when it is unexpected – your partner will love it.
Make it meaningful
As aforementioned, a meaningful proposal is an open-ended definition—it is about the two of you. Meaningful to one couple could include a hot air balloon ride, or it could simply mean a heartwarming conversation over a bowl of cereal and your morning coffee. Every couple has their own story, their own significant restaurants, their own first date location. To make your proposal meaningful, you simply need to tell your own love story, contributing to its future, making the moment last in your memory forever.
Most importantly, take a deep, joyous breath and celebrate. You have the ring, you have the love of your life, the next chapter starts now.